©Andrew, yikes I hope I haven’t raised expectancy, built this week’s content up tooo much, 😀 my posts are what they are, Andrew’s usual jumble of themes hopefully entertaining and insightful, btw todays post is slightly adult in nature, sensibly written with recent abuse news stories in mind.
Ass touching is perfectly acceptable between friends but when you don’t know the person you are patting then we’re talking sexual assault! As an aside my mother would slap my brother and myself across the back of our thighs, I should add we were children and deserved the punishment! Whereas my brother and sister-in-law have never laid a finger on either of their two sons who are adorable well behaved children of 9 and 11……………..I know I can’t make sense of that discipline puzzle either, whose right mum or brother? I’ve NO idea.
Anyways forget questions of physical punishment this evening I wish to ‘thoughtfully’ address the number one news story of 2017 which is sexual assault in the workplace, not so much Spacey Weinstein and our own Jimmy Savile who ARE nasty men, sexual predators. I’m talking what is and what isn’t appropriate if you like myself work closely with people of the opposite sex!
I watched a video on BBC’s News website the other day where male member’s of the public said they were no longer sure what is and what isn’t appropriate behaviour in the workplace, well for the last quarter of a century I’ve worked alongside young women aged between 18 and 21, 22+ if we’re talking post graduate students, and I’ve been asking myself are there lessons I should learn? Do I have to change improve reform my behaviour seeing as day to day I work with young women? More worryingly have I done anything in the past which could be now be misconstrued as assault, even before Michael Fallon’s resignation for touching a journalists leg I’ve been questioning myself Andrew do you have anything to worry yourself about, will a student appear out of the blue pointing a condemning finger accusing me of, “In 2000 Andrew brushed past me and touched my ass?”
Now do you see modern day moral standards are applicable to one’s past life when pinching a girl’s ass was acceptable? Because my guess many men are asking themselves these exact same questions right now!!……….. This is serious sh#t! Pat a girl’s ass 15 years ago and find your name is added to the sex offenders register in 2017!
I’ve made very clear within many published posts I work for a famous University and as such daily I come into contact with young women, men as well but let’s stick with the fair sex for now cause I’m not gay. Young women between ages 18 and 21, all shapes and sizes from all parts of the Globe, for the most they’re plain Jane’s others absolutely stunningly beautiful young women, if a little aloof, the dumpy Jane’s are often more friendly 😀
However the creatures have two attributes in common lovely human beings and highly intelligent if lacking in common sense time to time, three, I place all women on a pedestal…..I guess the first rule is ‘never put your hand inside the cookie jar!’ not forgetting I’m probably old enough to be their father. 😀
So have the boundaries and rules changed?
And do you know what? I can honestly say hand on heart I don’t consider workplace rules to have changed since when I first walked into the building 25 years ago. Nope I’m afraid I don’t agree with these men interviewed by the BBC, the rules haven’t suddenly changed, there isn’t a new standard you can stamp on every female’s ass!
Touching a female’s body isn’t appropriate now and neither was touching okay a quarter of a century ago. Ok on Blog Andrew I’ll write using extremely sexually explicit language, possess outrageous sexual opinions, but note also honest and truthful, my fantasies! Perhaps time to time a little male chauvinistic perhaps shocking to some readers, I’m assuming my written and visual observations of female boobs ass and wet pussies are okay! I hope I’ve reflected my love for women and I never ever lie here, what’s the point, I respect the human female animal. (I’m a Darwinist not a Creationist.)
Phew that’s one hell of a mouthful! Some readers may think differently but this is my Blog, my release, my thoughts and I have nothing to be ashamed of or regret writing about……………and yes even the post where I write of watching my neighbour strip naked in her bedroom 😮 ………….I’m viewing through my window and she’s getting undressed with her curtains open so what’s a guy to do but go grab his binoculars! Naughty girl age 50.
Anyways I enjoy writing about women and perhaps female writers have picked up on the inner workings of the ‘a-typical’ middle aged male’s working mind. Lol I’m fine with every word I’ve written boobs ass and vulva’s all.
So after 25 years of working closely with young women do I consider myself to have anything to worry about, any skeletons in my cupboard? And the honest answer is no, I’m not just saying that, my mother taught me to never swear in front of women so that box is ticked and I’ve never touched any woman’s arm shoulder leg neither hair in my life without asking first, and what guy has ever thought touching to be appropriate behaviour? I’ve been touched and it wasn’t nice, wasn’t funny.
I understand completely the rules as to invading someone’s personal space, I think that distance comes naturally to 95% of the population, who would ever consider patting a bottom or pressing an open palm into a ladies shoulder acceptable, they aren’t acceptable now and never have been.
I will admit if a student I’m working with comes to seek my advice or check on the progress of the project I making from her designs, I am FULLY aware of her bust out the corner of my eye and as she walks out of the workshop I’ll give a quick glance at her ass but that’s honestly as far as I go. I’m not trying to appear a Saint, in summertime I’ll be fully aware she’ll be wearing less and I enjoy their feminine charms humour and personality, and believe me when young women desperately need something from you, skilled aid, they’re ruthless. I’m a soft touch and will lol do anything they ask as regards their projects, they have me wrapped around their little fingers they’re intelligent young women and I fear they know how to work it! 🙂 Play me, in fact I’m certain.
Yes I’m single but women don’t scare me, beauty intimidates me but being in close proximity to their perfumed bodies doesn’t freak me out or give me a raging hard on, or cum in my boxer shorts lol. No I’ve been naked in bed with enough naked women in my lifetime, consensual sex etc to be unsurprised by feminine nudity, so to answer my question yes these young women are in their full bloom and many absolutely stunning but hey I’ve seen those goodies all before to know what theirs look like!
Do their faces pop up in my dreams at night? I can honestly say again no, the more mature woman sets my heart racing these days and I honestly do mean that………I think a woman at age 50 is grateful guys take notice of her I’M ONLY JOKING!!! Mind you, that young students don’t appear in my dreams is honestly a relief rather than something to be pleased about. Another box ticked!
So there you are, I have nothing to reproach myself for probably exactly the same as 95% of the male population, the rules haven’t suddenly changed, you treat people as you’d like to be treated and adhere to common sense respectful boundaries anything else can be considered as bullying.
However I can’t be so sure conversations themes haven’t been those of a Saint, my boss once said to a secretary “you should be more careful at your age”, exiting the lift she replied “I’ll ignore that R.”, I was taken aback by his brazen ness, laughed, but she’s a sensible woman and took the remark in good humour I think! So I guess the rule is if in doubt beware the crude remarks or inappropriate jokes and stay clear of politics and religion or any subject that could potentially star a heated debate…………. Answering my own question I’d never discuss any subject remotely sexual in front of a lady as I wouldn’t with my mother, perhaps having one’s mother in mind is a good yardstick!
Finally, the most shocking anecdote of my time working with a female student. Many years ago I manufactured with my own hands a device linked to an aero-engine the student being a young woman post doctorate. A wholly professional and respectful working relationship note. Well one morning she popped by, a pleasant girl, to check on progress because her Degree is dependent on the quality of my workmanship!
Well today she wore non descript cycling shorts also white tee shirt with a very wide looping neckline, a well worn baggy garment. Well conversations finished with she bent down to grab the handle of her bag, keeping eye contact with mine the whole time. Paused as her hand hovered above the holdall/bike/pannier one of the three, and as she looked up at me hand hovering atop her bag, the LARGE looping neckline of her shirt opened up and I saw a complete pendulous very large breast and nipple accompanied with a guilty look in her eye, oh yes she knew! Then with that she’d turned and scurried out the building! I was in fact open mouth dumbstruck, as in the photo above the outline of her boob and nipple an image I’ll never forget till my dying day……….so brazen beautiful and 😀 yes deliberate.
But the reason why she did it has troubled me ever since because I’m an intuitive guy, not stupid though jury’s out, I am absolutely positive she knew exactly the reason for revealing all, perhaps she thought I wasn’t working hard enough and needed an incentive? I’m not complaining mind and to my great disappointment being flashed at hasn’t happened again, unfortunately!
Lol if I’d flashed her my dick, is that any different?
Women are complicated creatures and I’ll never understand the why, perhaps her boob was a way of thanking me because I am good at my job and would have contributed to her gaining a respectable PHD.
🙂 In summing up this rather drawn out essay, which perhaps all men should write their own version, I’m very pleased to say my behaviour this past 25 years has been respectful professional and appropriate, workplace rules haven’t ‘suddenly’ changed they’re exactly the same as they’ve always been. Yes perhaps I’ll have to be more aware than ever how I interact with women, or perhaps the fair sex are of the opinion political correctness is in danger of becoming hysteria and men should relax a little. Andrew.